Seeking Sanctuary: Reduce Stress at a Monastery

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Brinton House at the Pendle Hill Quaker center was named in honor of Howard and Anna Brinton, directors for nearly three decades, and well-known authors of books on mysticism and Quakerism.
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The cob greenhouse is a testimony to ecologically friendly building practices at Pendle Hill. The greenhouse makes good use of resources by using locally harvested, recycled and nontoxic materials, making it a warm, friendly place for all.
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The traditional quadrangular shape of the Abbey of Gesthemani creates openness and concentration—spirituality expressed in architecture.
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Pendle Hill teacher Sally Palmer, left, enjoys working with ­students in the arts studio, open twenty-four hours a day for student use.
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The statue of Saint Joseph with his staff flowering into a lily rests outside the Holy Cross Abbey guest house.
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Sheltered by the Santa Ynez mountains, the Ladera retreat center of ­La Casa de Maria offers visitors peace as well as beauty.
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El Bosque retreat center at La Casa de Maria in Santa Barbara, California, is an ideal setting for contemplation.
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The tranquil Blue Ridge Mountains offer the perfect conditions for solace at The Holy Cross Abbey.
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Sheltered by the Santa Ynez mountains, the Ladera retreat center of ­La Casa de Maria offers visitors peace as well as beauty.

Across the country, hundreds of retreats, monasteries, cloisters, and abbeys located in out-of-the-way places–and some in unexpected city settings–offer sanctuary to all who seek it. No matter which retreat you choose, one thing is universal to the experience: The tools needed to balance mind, body, and spirit come with the room.

Mark Perew, a Santa Ana, California, programmer, says he keeps returning to St. Andrews, a Benedictine abbey in Valyermo, California, because his visits change the way he views himself. “There I learned I can be by myself, but I don’t have to be alone,” he says. “The monks follow a regimen of prayer, singing, and silence. Entering into that pattern helps me get in tune with the spiritual presence.”

Although the motivations of sanctuary visitors are as unique as their personalities and histories, those who host them notice a common theme. “A word we often see written in our registry book is peace,” says Brother Raphael Prendergast of the Abbey of Gethsemani in Trappist, Kentucky.

The quiet, often remote settings allow for introspection, reconnection, and a flowering of inherent wisdom. “Here guests get themselves back,” says Ryushin Marchaj, a senior monastic at Zen Mountain Monastery in Mt. Tremper, New York. “People recognize their own strength, their vastness, and their foibles.”

Most Zen monasteries begin and end every day with zazen, several hours of sitting meditation. Guests who have few opportunities for silence in their regular lives find this very powerful. Leslie Farmer, a journalist who stayed at Green Dragon Zen Monastery in Sausalito, California, says the meditation aspect gave her the sense she’d stepped into another culture. “This place had a peaceful atmosphere you can’t find at a hotel,” she says.

Finding Sanctuary

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