Life Is Short

| 8/1/2014 11:07:00 AM

pondMy long blog absence shouldn't fool you, life on the Pomponio Homestead continues.  The garden continues to grow weeds in healthy profusion.  The dust bunnies and dishes pile up.  I am secretly thankful that we have not had time to build a clothesline, forcing me to use the dryer.  My husband's aunt was recently and suddenly diagnosed with a very aggressive terminal brain cancer.  At 58, after just building the country retirement dream home and getting her only child off to college, Cindy suddenly appeared to have a stroke.

The ensuing two months have been even more devastating than the initial diagnoses.  From healthy to eight brain tumors.  Paralyzed on her left side and unsafe to be at home with family.  Insurance, after 30 years at the same job paying in, denying her coverage it claims to cover in her policy.  Bankruptcy looming, temporary loans to cover nursing home care, bills rolling over this very proud couple like a tsunami.  

Nick, Cindy's husband and my mother-in-law's brother, who asks the world for nothing and shows up ready to work every day; called me for help.  In the midst of an insurance denial crisis, a translation disaster dealing with industry lingo, and the devastation in hearing 'all we can do is keep her comfortable, maybe 6 months' Nick cried out for help.

So instead of gardening, cleaning, canning, and summering, I have talked with social workers and insurance boards.  Filed and defended insurance appeals, written letters and cried at Cindy's bedside.  The absolute isolation of facing your mortality holds at bay every friend and loved one.  We enter and exit alone.

Every death cliche bursts forth in these times.  I had a week of not yelling at anyone and just kissing them when they drove me nuts.  Watching the sunrise and practicing gratitude with more frequency than routine often allows.  Focusing on what truly matters in your life becomes paramount.

What matters to me is my family life.  Healthy, loving, supportive, compassionate and service oriented family life.  And I am more committed than ever to live this life sharing my gifts with the world.  Giving, sharing, loving and fighting for the right.  This homestead is my vehicle.

8/5/2014 2:33:31 PM

You have caused tears to run down a typically stoic face. My heart goes out to Cindy's husband, facing living in their dream home alone, and especially Cindy's child, adding this turmoil to the already difficult college juggle. Thank you for reminding us of how fleeting life is and what's truly important.

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