Collaborative Consumption: Shifting the Consumer Mindset

What if more consumers opted for access over ownership, use over possession, experience over “stuff”? Material wants and needs wouldn’t be in conflict with the responsibilities of a connected, environmentally conscious citizen.

| November 19, 2010

Whats Mine Is Yours

Collaborative consumption is organized sharing, bartering, lending, trading, renting, gifting and swapping through online and real-world communities. “What’s Mine Is Yours: The Rise of Collaborative Consumption” explores this invigorating shift from an unfettered zeal for individual getting and spending toward a rediscovery of collective good.


The following is an excerpt from What’s Mine Is Yours: The Rise of Collaborative Consumption by Rachel Botsman and Roo Rogers (HarperCollins Publishers, 2010). Drawing from examples of real entrepreneurs and revolutionaries around the world, Botsman and Rogers show how social technologies and economic and environmental imperatives are moving us into a new realm of consumerism, one marked by sustainability and shared access. This excerpt is from Chapter 1, “Enough Is Enough,” and Chapter 10, “The Evolution of Collaborative Consumption.” 

There is something sad about all this stuff we work so hard to buy, can’t live with, but inevitably can’t bear to part with. In the same way that we focus on where to bury our waste, not where the waste came from, we also spend inordinate amounts of energy and money storing excess stuff rather than asking the hard truths of why we have so much in the first place. The comedian George Carlin riffed on this in his classic stand-up routine about stuff: “The whole meaning of life has become trying to find a place to put your stuff ... Have you ever noticed how other people’s shit is shit and your stuff is stuff?” The controversial David Fincher movie Fight Club struck a painful chord with viewers who have ever experienced that addictive feeling of always wanting more, regardless of how much they have. Most people remember two lines from the movies: “The first rule of Fight Club — you do not talk about Fight Club” and “The things you own end up owning you.”

Tyler and Jack, the two main characters in the movie, seem to represent the stark choice that modern consumerism offers, best summarized by esteemed German social psychologist Erich Fromm as “To Have or to Be.” Jack (Ed Norton), is a stereotypical 30-year-old insomniac yuppie who keeps trying to fill his emotional voids and feel “complete” with the things he acquires. “I flip through catalogues and wonder what kind of dining set defines me as a person.” But no matter what Jack buys, he’s never satisfied. That’s before he meets Tyler (Brad Pitt), who, throughout the movie, takes anticonsumerist jabs such as, “You are not the clothes you wear. You are not the contents of your wallet ... You are not your grande latte. You are not the car you drive. You are not your fucking khakis. You’re the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.” Tyler shows Jack that acquiring more and more stuff is a meaningless pursuit devoid of purpose and fulfillment. “Goddamn it ... Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need.” The main theme of Fight Club runs counter to much of what consumer advertising preys on — we won’t find happiness or the meaning of our lives in the shopping mall or in the click of a mouse.

Research has proved that people who can afford to buy and hold on to more material goods are not necessarily more satisfied with their lives. Indeed, the reverse is often true. Economist Richard Layard has researched the relationship between growth, hyper-consumerism and happiness. His findings are illustrated by a graph on which one line represents a soaring increase of income and personal consumption per capita since 1950 (it has more than doubled) and the other line, marking Americans and Britons that describe themselves as “very happy” in an annual Gallup survey, remains flat. In fact, the number of people reporting to be “very happy” peaked in 1957 just as the conspicuous cycle of “work and spend,” and a revolution of rising materialistic expectations, began. Happiness became an elusive moving target. Nothing was ever enough.

Telling societal indicators paint a vivid picture of this decrease in well-being. Since 1960 the divorce rate has doubled in the United States; teen suicide rates have tripled; violent crime has quadrupled; the prison population has quintupled; and the percentage of babies born to unmarried parents has sextupled. Not exactly indicators of a satisfied consumer society. And it is only getting worse, as indicated by the massive increase in depression, anxiety, insomnia, heart disease, and obesity since the 1980s. As political scientist Robert Lane comments in The Loss of Happiness in Market Democracies, “The appetite of our present materialism depends upon stirring up our wants —  but not satisfying them.” Economists describe this emotional phenomenon as the “hedonic treadmill.” We work hard to acquire more stuff but feel unfulfilled because there is always something better, bigger, and faster than in the present. The distance between what we have and what we want, the “margins of discontent,” widens as the number of things we own increases. In other words, the more we have, the more we want.

We are taught to dream and desire new things from an early age, when asked frequently “What do you want for Christmas?” or “What do you want for your birthday?” Susan Fournier and Michael Guiry, former associate marketing professors at Harvard Business School, conducted a study called Consumption Dreaming Activity. They asked participants, “What things would you like to own or do someday?” Contrary to the researchers’ expectations, the lists varied little regardless of sex, income, education or standard or living. Generally speaking, lists were full of desires for material possessions; almost half the sample (44 percent) mentioned new cars; more than one in four (29 percent) listed luxury items such as yachts, antiques, jewelry, and designer clothes; and 16 percent just asked for the money — enough to buy anything they could possibly want. Where the study gets most interesting is not just the type of items respondents wrote down but the level of detail and elaboration they included; 42 percent of all things listed were described vividly. One participant wrote down not just wanting a car but “an emerald green Jaguar.”

5/9/2011 8:42:37 PM

"What if more consumers opted for access over ownership, use over possession, experience over “stuff”? Material wants and needs wouldn’t be in conflict with the responsibilities of a connected, environmentally conscious citizen." Well what if we lived in Cuba? We'd already be there. No thanks.

5/9/2011 7:48:25 PM

Did anyone but me notice the irony of all the ADVERTISING to the right, and below this article?

1/10/2011 3:05:06 PM

Old ways die hard, Me myself and I, we will call community I get it the goal each every day to earn more to have more. I have looked in my own bag of tricks to find a way to walk the line to keep the importance of the environment as a priority I keep failing each day. I understand and believe the global recession to well being a victim of a down seized market. So I am shaking it off and reengaging but I want to do it right. Therefor I am reeducating myself to make an impact in Collaborative Consumption in ownership, access, and most important my Reputation.

12/4/2010 12:35:09 AM

I feel it absolutely necessary to point out the "Fight Club" was a book first written by Chuck Palahnuik. I really can't appreciate this book for missing out on that blatant fact. Book first, THEN movie. I know it seems petty, but shoot... give credit where credit is due. I know most will associate with the movie, but some form of credit given to Palahnuik is necessary considering it was HIS brainchild. Otherwise, I feel like, while yes I can see your points on communisim, it certainly doesn't hurt to gather as a community and be more community oriented compared to our me, myself, and I attitude in life. Personally, having to share a laundry space with my neighbors is one of my least favorite things considering the place is a disaster and I feel disgusted to wash my clothes there... I can't wait to get my own washer/dryer. However, I am all for cutting back on our meaningless spending and always having to go bigger, badder, better. Take it with a grain of salt.

12/3/2010 9:58:28 AM

When someone buys a washing machine (or any other "frivolous" purchase) aren't they are helping to create a job for someone who is making that item?? I thought the liberals WANTED job creation and if we dont spend our money then the money will be trapped and no one will be rich (Paul Krugman's basic argument). Its hard to keep track of what i am supposed to support any more... dont buy anything from that evil corporation, they only make junk that you dont need BUT that evil corporation employs lots of people and what we need is more jobs... ugh, moral dilemmas abound Here's a crazy idea: why dont we just let people make their own decisions. When i lived in an apt i used to go to a laundromat, i kinda liked it too, but now that i am in a house it is easier to use a washing machine. Neither choise is inherently right or wrong. As we descend into the coming depression (yes, just like the Great Depression) we will become very frugal and people will learn to share and cherish what they have. But in the mean time i guess we need do-gooders like this author to tell us what we should be spending our money on because the author (or some other central planning beaurocrat) inherently knows what we should and shouldnt buy. the Soviet leaders inherently knew what was good for the people too...

jack o.
11/30/2010 8:19:36 AM

The authors give wonderful evidence of, and insights into, where our world is headed if this incessant marketing, which leads us to rampant consumerism, continues unabated. In my half century on this earth I've witnessed the incredible rise of commercialism in the world that drives the insatiable appetite of we, the consumer. Like modern Pied Pipers, the marketing giants use brilliant psychology to hypnotize our minds and lead us down to their Sea of Materialism, where, awash in unneccesary personal products, we furtively grab for all the possesions we can hold, and slowly sink under the weight of our own greed. To at least be made aware of this real scenario is what this book seeks to do and it is like a breath of fresh air in a stale room. Whether we agree with the suggestions on how to solve it or not doesn't matter as much as that it makes ever more of us aware. The tipping point of change will come; when enough minds discover this truth.

11/27/2010 10:48:45 AM

I agree with L, the article does sound communism to me. At this moment in time, we are in a depression, and a depression is a better teacher then brainwashing the people. The over-taxing of our government,people out of work and the cost of items are rising; is creating less spending. I would use more fuel, and put more CO2 in the atmosphere if I had to drive to town to use a Laundromat. But rest asure MotherEarthNews. I don't use a dryer but hang up my clothes for drying. I took note that the writer was talking about washing machines in Calf. You can not judge the rest of the country by Calf or New York. And yes, when I lived in a small town I used the Laundromat.

lamar havard_2
11/23/2010 11:50:47 PM

I just thought of a great place for M.E.N.'s new headquarters: CARACAS

11/22/2010 4:09:19 PM

The author wants communism, same old idea with a different name. People don't own their own washing machines in Cuba, I don't want to live in a country even resembling Cuba do you?

barbara gillihan
11/22/2010 11:17:52 AM

This is well said and to the point. Wonderfully written!! This needs to get out to the public in every way possible. I know the economy wants us to spend, spend, spend... but in the long run, what we spend it on, and how we view the world we live in, is more important. Priorities are the important issue. Why not come up with innovative ideas for sharing and co-oping, rather than the consumption of natural resources to make new?? Keep up the good work Mother Earth News!! I love the path you are on!! "He who dies with the most toys DOES NOT win"!!!!

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