My Relationship With Non-Breastfeeding Mothers

| 8/18/2014 10:37:00 AM

Tags: breastfeeding, parenting, Lisa Marie Morgan, Oregon,

In honor of world breastfeeding month, I have written a two-part series on my relationship with breastfeeding. Part one talks about my breastfeeding relationship with my kids. For Part Two, I will discuss my relationship with non-breastfeeding mothers. Here I want to honor the bottle-feeding mothers.

"While breastfeeding may not seem the right choice for every parent, it is the best choice for every baby." ~Amy Spangler

I absolutely believe that breastfeeding is the right choice for every baby and even, in contradiction to the quote above, the right choice for every mother. While intended as a reference, I have read Dr. Jack Newman’s The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers from cover to cover and agree with Dr. Newman that with enough patience and support, there is a solution to every breastfeeding challenge.

However, I also understand that in a society where mother’s are given bottles at baby showers, breast pumps have made it to the needs list and formula comes in as many flavors as does ice cream, that breastfeeding isn’t always going to be the final choice for every mother and baby.

Do I feel more awkward seeing a bottle in a baby’s mouth than getting a glimpse of an undisclosed breast? Yes, I do. Do I wish my breastfeeding-challenged mommas could utilize the wisdom of the perfect lactation consultant for hours, days and weeks in the comfort of their own homes? Yes, I do. Do I want to boast a 100 percent breastfeeding statistic for my birth clients? Yes, I do.

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8/25/2014 7:56:57 PM

I have to say that it certainly doesn't sound like the author champions "mothers on both sides of the coin" if she says earlier in the article that she believes breastfeeding is the right choice for every mother. You can't have it both ways. You either support a mom's choice or you don't. It also sounds as if she chalks up reasons for formula feeding as being "easier" which is insulting on many levels. Let's recall that some women cannot breastfeed for whatever reason but not least of which can be the physical or emotional triggers of breastfeeding due to past sexual or physical abuse. I'd expect a more thoughtful, balanced, informed piece in a publication like Mother Earth News.

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