I Am an Independent Woman Homesteader, and That’s OK!

| 4/13/2016 10:20:00 AM

Tags: women farmers, homestead inspiration, Amy Fewell, Virginia,


Growing up, I wasn't necessarily the daintiest of girls. I enjoyed making mud pies, trying to save earth worms from the summer storms pounding the concrete patio, and most of all, I loved walking through the fields welcoming new baby calves at Grandma and Granddad's house. I would rather play in the dirt and be rough and rowdy with dad than play princess and have tea parties. My sister was the dainty one—she loved tea parties. But she could hold her own too. I was the one who would rip her Barbie heads off and run over them with my hot wheels cars.

We were raised that way. We were raised to be strong, independent women. We were raised to think for ourselves and never depend on a man for anything. 

Somewhere along the way, I found love, and the daintiness came...and the "don't depend on a man" flew out the front door.

When my husband and I married in 2006, I wanted to be the girl who depended on her husband for everything. I thought that's what most men wanted, and how most women felt "safe". I wanted to be taken care of. I wanted to take care of him. I wanted to be the cute little housewife who wore aprons and had her hair done up neatly when he came home. 

But then reality set in, and I realized life wasn't anything like that. Not to mention, I had to work. I've never been that "cute little house wife". I blame it all on being 18 years old when we got married. I still believed in fairy tales and robust romances. I thought I knew everything there was to know about life—boy, was I wrong.

4/21/2016 6:10:31 AM

Thank you so much for the inspiring words! Lovestogarden -- you so hit the nail on the head about the feminist comment. That's exactly what I mean. I'm far too busy doing LIFE to have anything to do with that. This lifestyle makes you look at things so differently. It makes your take responsibility for yourself in every way!

4/20/2016 12:27:25 PM

Excellent post, Amy. My husband and myself have a similar way of doing things. I guess we're not technically homesteading yet, but we are doing anything we can with our suburban yard. We each have things that we are good at and things that we are not so good at. As you said, marriage is a partnership. We both work hard, just at different things.

4/20/2016 9:20:18 AM

What an outstanding article, I love the way you think Amy! It is so refreshing to read an article where the person is taking responsibility for their actions and not placing blame on anyone else. Congrats on doing what you love and excelling!

4/20/2016 9:17:13 AM

Hello Amy, I have thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog. Since I come from a long line of "independent women" and recognize you as a kindred spirit. I remember a conversation with my mother about the feminist movement and we just didn't get it because we were too busy doing what we needed to do. Ha! Thanks for sharing because I believe your honest assessment of yourself and your happiness will be encouraging to other women who need to hear just that!

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