Natural Health

Healthy living, herbal remedies and DIY natural beauty.

Add to My MSN

Countdown to Christmas: Make It Simply Imperfect

12/15/2010 12:06:00 AM

Tags: wabi-sabi, holidays, party, planning

The following is an excerpt from my book, Simply Imperfect: Revisiting the Wabi-Sabi House, due out from New Society Publishers in April.
I wanted to give my kids the elaborate Christmas Eve memories that my mom had given my siblings and me. When I was growing up, we invited friends and neighbors for an open house, and I remember it as a magical night. The dining table groaned with hors d’oeuvres, wine flowed freely, Christmas carols played on the reel-to-reel and a fire crackled in the fireplace. It was Currier and Ives perfect, and I had no idea what it took to make that happen.

living room with Christmas tree 
Simple but festive decorating makes for warm, cozy holiday gatherings. Photo By Michael Shopenn. 

When my kids were very young, I invited all our family’s friends and neighbors for an annual Christmas Eve gathering. The party sent me into overdrive. Deep into the long, long winter nights leading up to that party, I made appetizers, wrapped gifts for Santa to distribute to all the kids, cleaned my Christmas china and baked cookies. By Christmas Eve day, I was exhausted, and my kids were tired of being ignored.

One year, as I frantically searched for coconut while swiping at the filthy baseboards that I hadn’t noticed before and arranging evergreen boughs for the table, my 3-year-old daughter, Cree, kept asking me to play. I kept saying no, and she kept asking. I snapped. “Can’t you see how much I have to do?” I yelled. “I haven’t even set the table yet. And don’t crack those nuts in here!”

Cree burst into tears. “Mommy, I hate the Christmas Eve party!” she said. “I hate Christmas Eve!”

She got my attention. I sat down on the floor, leaned against the dirty baseboard, and took Cree into my lap so we could crack nuts and throw the shells on the floor. As the afternoon light dimmed, we lit candles and saw that by their flickering light no one could see our baseboards. No one missed the coconut in the appetizers, either. 

You can’t be a good hostess when you’re fried and frenzied. If you don’t have the time and energy to pull off a big bash without a meltdown, keep entertaining casual this year. And remember, your guest is your first, your last, and your everything.

• Serve a variety of food so that everyone’s diet (from vegan to Atkins) is covered.

• If it’s cold outside, greet them with a hot drink and invite them in to a room warmed by a roaring fire. If it’s warm, play tropical music and pass out fans.

• Keep their drinks filled (unless they’re tipsy).

• Watch for wallflowers, and spend as much time as you can with them.

• Introduce guests to one another and stick around to spark conversations.

Content Tools

Post a comment below.


Subscribe Today!

Pay Now & Save 67% Off the Cover Price

(* indicates a required item)
Canadian subs: 1 year, (includes postage & GST). Foreign subs: 1 year, . U.S. funds.
Canadian Subscribers - Click Here
Non US and Canadian Subscribers - Click Here