Am I Too Attached to My Baby?


| 1/29/2014 9:56:00 AM


Tags: parenting, Oregon, Lisa Marie Morgan,

Still holding that baby Having your first child is akin to the early stages of dating someone you think you might really like. You are not sure what this is supposed to look like and you react to every word spoken … you want to make sure you look your best and say the right things, and you end up with butterflies in your stomach at each meeting. All day you think of this special person and imagine the next phase of your life together.

When I had my first child, it was frequently commented that I was holding her too much. In fact, it seemed that I would rush to pick her up whenever she would cry. And people around me thought this was a bit obsessive. They also called me selfish because they claimed I wanted to be with her all the time; it was suggested that I take a break from her, let others spend some time with her. But much like dating, my giddiness in getting to know her wouldn’t let me interact with her any other way.

As she grew taller, began to crawl, started speaking and began reasoning, this habit of mine never really changed. I continued the trend with my second child. I remember falling asleep in the same bed together and waking up in the middle of the night together. I relished the feeling of his little feet resting against my belly button as we slept, knowing that before long they would be resting against my thighs.

Then, my third child and I have earned the nickname, “Motherboy” from my husband, as we are never far from each other, if not attached at the, well, hip, breast … you name it.

Hold Them and Hold Them

While parenting is not always full of fairies and unicorns, and I will write more on that in the next post, there is magic in having my little ones close to me. Like my first date with my beloved, I still get excited and full of butterflies when I see my children after time apart. Now more than ever, I choose my words ever so carefully knowing that my kids ponder and repeat everything I say. And as they grow older and more independent, they remind me daily with their words and their actions that they are still attached to me, that they still need me and that they love me unconditionally.


positivepercent
8/6/2014 8:04:07 AM

Don't forget to give them the opportunity to learn self soothing technics. When all their needs are taken care of it's ok to allow a little crying, relaxing themselves, and self soothing and putting themselves to sleep. These are their first coping skills. It begins the parental message " You're ok, you ARE capable of coping with momentary discomfort and you'll wake up and play with us again". Many well meaning parents unwittingly give their children the message that they think they won't be able to do it. At the same time holding babies a lot is great. It's a matter of balance. Some of this, some of that. My babies spent a lot of time in the backpack and a strong type of front carrier. They always wanted to see what was going on and I couldn't get anything done otherwise.




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