A List that Could Reshape – Even Save -- Your Life


| 5/12/2012 7:21:00 AM


Tags: low self esteem, overcoming negative self images, self improvement, finding happiness, happiness, mindfulness, being happy, Dan Chiras,

Learn to appreciate all the good things you are

One of the biggest life-saving lessons I learned in life is how inaccurately – and negatively -- we see ourselves.

Our inaccurate and decidedly negative self-assessment creates low self-esteem that robs us of deep personal satisfaction, success, and happiness. It makes us less lousy friends and lovers, too.

Let’s get personal:  My distorted self-image began in childhood. Thanks in part to disapproving, openly critical parents, and a host of other factors, I grew up with an extremely negative self-image.  I saw myself as unremarkable and unlovable, and certain not terribly intelligent.

I performed okay in school, graduating in the top third of my class, but didn’t turn any heads. When I went off to college, I vowed to turn things around and to make the most of my education. I studied day and night, on vacations, during breaks, on weekends when my friends were partying.

My grades reflected my dedication and hard work. I received all As and one or two Bs, was always on the Dean’s list, was admitted to the honors program, and graduated with honors with a 3.7 GPA in the sciences. Despite my success in college, low self-esteem loomed over me like a proverbial dark cloud, preventing me from appreciating, even recognizing my achievement.


t brandt
5/13/2012 11:43:34 AM

Ben Franklin goes you one better: he also made a list of his short-comings and then went to work on correcting those one at a time.I started following that advice 30 yrs ago. Give me another 40 yrs and I could turn out perfect.




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