Fenimore's Home Birth Story


| 10/28/2011 1:41:40 PM


Tags: home birth, midwifery, VBAC, birth story,

This birth story is the first of other home birth stories to come, told to me by a mother and shared here for others contemplating home birth and VBAC.  

Mom Baby Holding HandsThis is a story of two births. It is my second-born Fenimore's birth story, but without my first-born Khady's birth story, Fenimore's story would have been radically different. It wasn't until I read Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too, that I began to more fully understand that equality is not necessarily a good thing when raising kids and that beauty can lie in inequality. If I had not had a Cesarean, I would never have had a homebirth. And so I share my story, for Khady and for Fen, and for women who are wanting a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean).

The morning of October 28, I made an extra effort to spend time with Khady. I had a sense that there would be few moments left to devote all of my attention to my first-born. Though walking was, at this point, uncomfortable, hand-in-hand we covered the eight blocks to the Halloween celebration at the school where Khady played two days a week. My Braxton-Hicks contractions were frequent now and gaining in strength. I remember feeling a bit awkward, and at least one mom asked how I was doing.

“I think I am in labor,” I revealed, as 2- and 3-year-old lions, princesses and astronauts milled around. Khady was a bright orange tiger.

We both picked at lunch that afternoon, having stuffed ourselves at the party. While waiting for Matt to come home I played the CD I made for the birth and we danced. The dancing drew my contractions closer together and I hugged Khady tight.

We had lasagna for dinner, the third night in a row, my desire for cooking having disappeared a few months back. After dinner, I called my midwife, and suggested I might be calling again in the middle of the night.


zev bachmeier
11/18/2011 5:28:38 PM

Thanks for sharing your story. I keep imagining much singing during our homebirth planned for March 2012.




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