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#1 Posted : Tuesday, July 11, 2006 10:20:53 PM
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Dear Global Family:

Hospice is meeting with my brother tomorrow in regards to taking my father to the farm and pass away peacefully. It has been most difficlt for me facing death once again with a parent. Moving dad from nursing home has been postphoned a couple of times in past couple of weeks as it seemed he was making progress and then back to ground ZERO. I flew home to be with dad last weekend as all my family did to be with him while he was aware of all us kids being there together for him. I am grateful that my mother and father provided a strong family unit.
I would like to thank some of the members that have made me laugh during this sad time. Laughter is a good cure for all ills. For perfect strangers to have embraced another stranger during a desperate time I sincerely appreciate your thoughts and humor as it has given me strength.

Thank you and I love you all for taking time out of your busy lives with your thoughts that means much to me.

Ars longa, vita brevis
#2 Posted : Friday, July 14, 2006 11:15:40 PM
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Dear Global Family:

I would like to thank all of you with your support as my father has passed away. A friend of mine e-mailed this to me and I will post as a small memorial.

Many thanks,
Ars longa, vita brevis
So sorry to hear about the death of your father. At times such as these one
tries to think of the right words to say in an attempt to ease the pain and
provide comfort. Unfortunately, sometimes words are all too feeble.

If I may, I would like to offer these verses. I hope they help in some small



Then Almitra spoke, saying, "We would ask now of Death."

And he said:

You would know the secret of death.

But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?

The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the
mystery of light.

If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto
the body of life.

For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the

And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.

Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.

Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands
before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.

Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the
mark of the king?

Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the

And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless
tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

-- Khalil Gibran


My thoughts are with you and your family.

#3 Posted : Friday, July 14, 2006 11:15:40 PM
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I just received news from my sister that mt father has had another strok. He is in a nursing home and feeding tube will be removed tomorrow. He will then be taken to my brothers farm and put on a morphine drip to pass away in his living room looking out through the big picture window at the huge pine tree and with family around. This is better we believe as a family of 6 brothers and sisters for passing of a parent. I was at my mothers side when she died in a hospital and always regretted not taking her home. My mother was my BEST friend. If you have a choice --I believe it is better to take your parent or loved one home to die in familiar surroundings and with people who care. I am from the farm--and this is how my Great Grand Parents did it--and Grand Parents. Thought I would share my experience.

Ars longa, vita brevis

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